Today is that day, the 1 year mark from the phone call I
received letting me know that my biopsy had returned positive for Invasive
Ductal Carcinoma. I remember it all too
clearly, sitting there in shock. Knowing
there were thousands of questions I should be asking, but not having the clear
brain to even begin to process it all. I
am amazed at how fast this year has gone.
Time flying is good and bad.
It is mostly good for this year, as the treatments and surgeries do not
seem like they were long and drawn out.
For that I am grateful. I am sad
by the lost time. There are days that
have blurred into weeks and months. I could
not give you details about certain time periods. I know days melted together on the couch as I
allowed my body to sleep and heal from all the torments I put it thru. These treatments were of course my choice,
and I am hoping this lost year has bought me many years in the future. That is a fair price.
Friends and family have come and gone. Everyone rallies around you in the beginning
or runs for the hills. Cancer scares
people. Whether it is from thinking it
is contagious, making them aware of their own mortality, or simply not knowing
what to say or do, it certainly makes most uncomfortable. And what seemed to have been a dramatic
journey to follow on posts, has lost its glimmer and glam. I have found a new family, one of truly empathetic
sisters. Women who have walked my walk
and know this from the inside. Those
bonds will never break and cannot be taken from me like other relationships
have.
I am still not sure how I feel about all this as my active
treatment has ended and my next phase begins.
I have moments of glee and times of deep darkness. For me, the need to structure the early chaos
and the all consuming appointments actually gave me something to focus on,
something to work towards, steps that I knew needed following. Now there is vagueness to my day, no
structure around the cancer center, not seeing my doctors for weeks at
times. That all seems a little scary
right now. Who is watching over me and
my wrecked body?
I keep making plans to start rebuilding my life, job, house,
relationships, and body. But each
evening I get home, I am still so tired, I don’t always do my physical therapy
exercises, or even brush my teeth before bed for that matter! My brain tells me how important all these
things are, but my body and heart still say not today. Maybe tomorrow will be the day.
I find it so difficult to get the words of how I feel down,
yet the urge to get it out continues.
Writing can also be therapeutic and cathartic. Here’s to hoping this helps with tomorrow.